Dating & Relationship Coaching

Coaching, assistance, counseling and psychotherapy to help singles
Date healthfully, confidently and effectively

I help singles with:
  • Active listening
  • Anxiety
  • Control issues
  • Caring about others
  • Cooperation & partnership
  • Cultural differences
  • Depression
  • Developing good habits
  • Developing vision & goals
  • Effective communication
  • Embarrassment
  • Enhancing motivation
  • Expectations (realistic)
  • Fear of commitment
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of marriage
  • Fear of starting a family
  • Financial issues
  • Friendship
  • Getting over past relationships
  • Giving
  • Goals & expectations
  • Health issues
  • How to disagree
  • Immaturity
  • Knowing what you don’t want
  • Knowing what you want
  • Logistics
  • Love
  • Performance anxiety
  • Psychological difficulties
  • Receiving from others
  • Relating with dates friends/family
  • Relationships & friends
  • Religious issues
  • Respect for others
  • Responsibility
  • Self confidence
  • Self esteem
  • Setting limits
  • Sexuality
  • Social skills
  • Timing & pacing of relationships
  • Trauma healing
  • Trust
  • Values clarification
  • Wants & needs

Many singles – of a variety of ages –  as well as divorcees, widows and widowers experience frustration and failure at dating and/or being able to decide and make a commitment to a person for a long-lasting loving relationship (e.g. marriage). Some date for years and never seem to be able to “find the right person” or even connect.

Quite a number of singles are literally petrified at the idea of going out on a date. Some have little or no social skills, or are awkward, or have experienced a lifetime of rejection and heart-ache, or just one traumatic experience that caused fear and avoidance. They are afraid, nervous and uncomfortable about the idea of even going out on a date.

Lots of young – and not so young – adults have been on the dating circuit, have gone to conferences, single get-a-ways, etc. for years – and simply do not get anywhere in the achievement of their dating goals.

Many singles find dating boring, depressing, laborious or embarrassing.

My Approach to Helping Singles Successfully Date

I have many years professional experience working with singles from a wide variety of different ethnic, religious, political, geographic, cultural backgrounds.

My goal is to help facilitate and increase self-esteem, healthy functioning, general happiness, life satisfaction and meaningfulness for the individual client and for the couple.

I use Positive Psychology, as well as other coaching and therapeutic approaches and tools to help singles become who they would like to be as a partner within a relationship.

My interventions are focused, clear, positive, interactive and caring. I provide the understanding and teach the skills needed  to solve problems and achieve goals.

Much of the dating assistance that I provide is more along the lines of life coaching and guidance. However, often a person needs more. In those cases I am qualified and experienced in helping individuals resolve psycho-emotional, social, and behavioral difficulties. (Please see my psychotherapy page.)

Although sometimes, all that is needed is just a little coaching now and then to keep things on track and make minor adjustments or solve smaller current concerns, when there is a deep painful problem I prefer to offer intensive short-term treatment in order to get the job done effectively and efficiently. It is not a good idea to prolong the agony and experiences of failure, through long term therapy. The sooner my client can experience positive successful experiences…the better.

More will be appearing here soon.

My qualifications, training & experience

For more than 35 years I have been helping singles and couples have more successful, satisfying, meaningful and happy relationships.

I received his license as a Marriage, Family & Child Therapist in 1981 from the Board of Behavioral Science Examiners, California. I am also licensed as a Supervisor and was the director and senior clinical supervisor of a training & internship program for  therapists.

I is also trained and certified in Pre-marital and marital counseling and enhancement by Prepare-Enrich.

Additional information on each topic will be available
as the website is being developed

Please feel welcome to call me if you have any questions regarding how I work, and
how I would approach helping you achieve your goals.

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